Choosing to homeschool is not always easy…
Sometimes moms feel alone in their decision to homeschool their children. Homeschoolers choose to go against the grain, refusing the norms of society. Because of the stigma associated with homeschooling, moms naturally develop a thicker skin. This “thicker skin” can sometimes come off as being defensive.
But at the core, every parent is trying to make the best choices they can for their children. Choices that will look very different across the board. That being said, below are several homeschooling mom truths we wished our non-homeschooling counterparts knew.
HOMESCHOOLING MOM TRUTH #1: WE HAVE BAD DAYS, TOO…
Everyday is not made up of a happy child sitting eagerly at the kitchen table waiting to absorb the knowledge poured over them. Some days are filled with moods and tantrums, resulting in a child who is unfocused or unwilling to learn.
There are days we are tired, stressed and exhausted, yet we still have to dig down deep and find the strength to homeschool. Even more so, some days require extra patience, as our child struggles to grasp new concepts and ideas.
The beauty of homeschooling is that it allows for flexibility, and tomorrow is always a new day.
HOMESCHOOLING MOM TRUTH #2: HOMESCHOOLING IS NOT FOR EVERYONE
Homeschoolers support your choice not to homeschool your child. I mean, think about it…
Homeschooling moms are definitely advocates for having the choice of how you school your child. Also, every child is different. What works for one child, may not work for another.
And on top of that, some moms are just not able to stay home and homeschool their children, and that’s OK! The important thing is to support one another in our efforts to grow happy and productive children.
HOMESCHOOLING MOM TRUTH #3: OUR KIDS ARE SOCIALIZED
My kids are able to interact appropriately with adults, befriend children at the park and meet a variety of individuals on a daily basis. The problem is not “socialization”, but rather making sure your child has a steady group of friends.
That is where homeschooling can sometimes fall short. Parents need to make sure their children are given the opportunity to form deeper friendships with other children. This can be in the form of regular play-dates, joining a homeschool co-op or group, becoming involved in a sports team, or any other environment that allows your child to regularly engage with the same group of children.
HOMESCHOOLING MOM TRUTH #4: WE DON’T NEED A TEACHING DEGREE
Yes, we are qualified to teach our children, even without a teaching degree. Homeschool curriculum and other widely available resources provide parents with everything they need to properly instruct their child. That being said, no, we are not experts in every single subject. But, who is?
There are times when we need a refresher, especially as our children grow older and progress in their studies. But being able to grow and learn with your child allows for a unique and personal learning environment that cannot be matched.
HOMESCHOOLING MOM TRUTH #5: WE ARE NOT DOMESTIC GODDESSES
Yes, some days require dinner out of a box.
There are days where the house is messy, children are throwing tantrums and patience dwindles down to almost nothing. Every mom struggles to find balance and get it all done.
HOMESCHOOLING MOM TRUTH #6: WE WORRY, TOO…
Do we have it all figured out? Of course not! We struggle, worry and wonder just like any other loving parent. No, we don’t have all the answers either.
All we can do is take a deep breath, say a little prayer and have faith in our parenting choices.
HOMESCHOOLING MOM TRUTH #7: SOMETIMES WE GET JEALOUS OF NON-HOMESCHOOLERS
Trust me, sometimes we dream about just throwing in the towel and dropping our kids off at the nearest school. Homeschooling is not easy. It requires a lot of time, dedication and patience – LOTS of patience. Just because we are secure in our decision to homeschool, doesn’t mean we can’t dream!
HOMESCHOOLING MOM TRUTH #8: WE GET TIRED OF JUSTIFYING OUR CHOICE
For some reason, there is a constant need to justify the decision to homeschool. Forever fending off questions such as, why do you homeschool? How do you socialize your kids? Aren’t you worried that they won’t be able to get into college or make any friends?
Unfortunately, this is the life of a homeschooling mom. Instead of judging and laying on the mom guilt, non-homeschooling mom, lets support each other in the effort to raise awesome kids.
HOMESCHOOLING MOM TRUTH #9: HOMESCHOOLED KIDS ARE A LITTLE ODD
This one is hard to admit, but yeah, homeschooled kids are a little odd. They are free of the peer pressures that come along with mainstream schooling. Sometimes my child thinks he’s a super genius. Well, think about, the only person he is in competition with is himself! This is where balance and the inclusion of other extracurricular activities becomes super important.
HOMESCHOOLING MOM TRUTH #10: WE DIDN’T CHOOSE TO HOMESCHOOL ON A WHIM
We do not take the decision to homeschool lightly. It was something that we thought about, long and hard, weighing the pros and cons. We spent hours consulting with our spouses and others, ultimately deciding this was the best choice for us.
HOMESCHOOLING MOM TRUTH #11: WE ARE DOING OUR BEST – JUST LIKE YOU
Every single parent is trying to do what they think is best for their child. What a wonderful concept that we live in a world that allows us this luxury, so let’s embrace our differences and personal choices.
Being different and unique is what makes this world a special place. The important thing is to raise smart, well-rounded and productive members of society. Individuals who can continue to move this world forward.
HOMESCHOOLING MOM TRUTH #12: WE LOVE OUR HOMESCHOOLING LIFESTYLE
We love the decision to homeschool our kids, and the freedom of our homeschooling schedule. Extra time spent with our kids (bad days, included :)). The luxury of taking spontaneous field trips in order to explore and learn. How awesome is it to have the opportunity to play like a child everyday?
Ultimately, all these homeschooling mom truths boil down to one thing. Every parent wants acceptance for their parenting choices. Like I’ve mentioned before, whether you choose to homeschool or not, the decision is yours. Ignore the thoughts and ideas of others, instead focusing on finding your perfect balance.