Ah, mommy guilt… That nagging feeling that questions all of our parenting choices.
Mommy guilt is the culprit behind so many negative emotions surrounding parenthood. Not only that, but it even helps us justify judging other people’s parenting as well.
Instead of continuing to allow the negative connotations surrounding mommy guilt, why not use it to your advantage?
Believe it or not, mommy guilt does have a silver lining.
IT MEANS YOU CARE
Finding balance is a struggle for any mother, whether they stay at home, work from home or work outside of the home. It is normal to feel guilty and overwhelmed by all the pressure. But, those twinges of mommy guilt further emphasize the fact that you care about your children.
If you didn’t care, odds are you would feel no guilt. Embrace the mommy guilt and realize that there will be times you struggle to balance all of life’s responsibilities. Ultimately, these little humans are the reason behind it all.
IT KEEPS YOU MOTIVATED
Ever notice that the mommy guilt helps you push a little harder?
Mommy guilt is a great motivational tool. Remember the reason behind the long nights, short days and numerous obstacles in your way. Use the mommy guilt to your advantage and allow it to help motivate you to reach your goals and live your best life.
IT PUTS THINGS INTO PERSPECTIVE
If anything, mom guilt helps to put things into perspective. You learn to let go of the little things that don’t really matter. Before motherhood, we create a list of all the things we plan to do. Promising ourselves we will be the “perfect” mom.
Isn’t it easy to be a parent before you actually have kids? Thing is, life doesn’t usually end up the way you plan…
In my own family, for example, breast feeding was a huge priority for me. With my first child, things were a breeze. Everything went smoothly, and I was super proud of myself.
Well, a few years later, along came my second. I was so convinced of a similar experience, I did not even bother to buy bottles. I mean, why?
Needless to say, things did not go the way I planned. My tiny, little boy had terrible reflux, which made the position of breast feeding almost unbearable. Also, something in my milk was causing him even more discomfort.
After weeks of eliminating the usual culprits from my diet, without any success, I became very frustrated. I even spent hours a day pumping to no avail. Every time I gave him the milk, it made him feel terrible.
This supposed “liquid gold” that cured all ails was making things worse.
Ultimately, we made the decision to switch over to formula. To this day, this is one of the hardest decisions I ever made as a mom.
Reflecting back, I realize that the important thing was for my son to be fed and nourished, regardless of the means. Your motherhood journey may not be exactly how you plan, but it is uniquely yours.
IT HELPS YOU STRIVE TO BE BETTER
Your family is probably your strongest “why” for everything you do. Keep that in mind the next time you feel the mommy guilt coming on. Use the accountability of those feelings to continually better yourself – on all levels.
This includes mentally, emotionally and physically. Only when you are feeling your best, can you be the best mother for your children. Make time for you, pursue your goals and focus on living your best life. Remember, your children are looking to you as an example.
Regardless, there will still be times when the mommy guilt tries to bring you down. The next time you feel those sneaky twinges coming on, flip the situation around to your advantage.
Don’t sweat the little things, Mom. Our children are young for such a short time, why spend it stressing unnecessarily?