The problem is not failure… it’s what you do after.
This is the number one secret to success, and a key principle that can be applied to all aspects of your life, both personal and professional. For example, you may face failure while you are trying to get healthier, start a new career or even in motherhood.
No matter the situation, there will inevitably be obstacles in your way. Life is simply not easy. But, when those obstacles come, it is important to remember there is a silver lining: failure is actually a good thing.
IT BUILDS CHARACTER
If we didn’t face certain obstacles in our life, would we be the same people today? Probably not. Failure helps mold our character. Your character includes your belief system, thoughts, ideas and actions. By shining a positive light on our failures, we are reminded that they are a means to an end.
By choosing to look at failure as a great teacher, we are able to foster the necessary personal growth required to ultimately reach our goals. That being said, remember to use failure as a learning experience for achieving success in all areas of your life.
IT KEEPS YOU HUMBLE
Facing failure often feels like we are being served up a slice of humble pie. As cynical as it sounds, finding success sometimes feels impossible. When failure gives us a blow and knocks us down, there is usually a lesson to be learned.
This principle can also be applied when parenting our children. Parents today sometimes have a tendency to gloss over their children’s mistakes in an attempt to minimize failure. Recent generations have almost become ingrained with the belief that they are invincible. While I strongly believe in being positive and building up our children, we sometimes forget to let them make mistakes. A good dose of failure is a good reminder to stay humble.
IT BUILDS RESILIENCE
When we fail, it adds a layer or resilience to our character. It makes us stronger and gives us the drive to keep pushing. Yes, it feels horrible when things don’t go the way we planned, but there is usually a good reason behind it.
Resilience helps equip us with the skills we need to cope and overcome our circumstances. The next time we are faced with failure, we will be able to handle the situation much differently. Life is a continuous cycle of failing, learning and ultimately achieving.
IT FOSTERS CREATIVITY
When you are overcome by failure, you are oftentimes forced to dig deep and find new and creative ideas to solve a problem. Innovative solutions are generally born after having failed, usually many times.
Embrace failures by being creative and learning to think out side of the box. By doing this, you are using your failed attempts to your advantage.
IT HELPS YOU CONFRONT YOUR FEARS
Sometimes, the mere thought of failing at something stops us in our tracks and prevents us from even trying. In my own life, I remember many times when I thought to myself, ” What’s the point? I’m not going to fail anyways”.
An attitude of fear towards failure may prevent us from reaching our full potential and having great success in life. This blog, for example, was born out of fear of failure. It was a result of stepping outside of my comfort zone, and facing my fears head on. Boy am I am happy I did!
Look failure in the eye and face your challenges head on. Sure, you will fail, but in the process you will grow, learn a ton and be better for it.
IT LEADS TO SUCCESS
Eventually, all our failed attempts will lead to success. If you face your fears, keep persevering and use your failures to create new solutions, you will eventually succeed.
Thomas Edison said it best. “I haven’t failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work”. It may take many attempts (hopefully, not 10,000!) to reach your goals and see success, but you will get there eventually.
Remember, failure is not the end of the line. Don’t give up. Our failures can lead to greater things than we can ever imagine.